Hey all! 

I know we’re all feeling the strain with the political unrest and protests in Kenya. It’s a tough time for everyone, especially our kids, who rely on us for a sense of security. Since moving back to Kenya from the US for my research project, I’ve been thinking a lot about how to help families navigate these turbulent times. Here are some friendly tips that might help.

1. Chat Honestly with Your Kids

Kids are little detectives; they pick up on everything! It’s important to have open and honest conversations with them about what’s happening. Keep it simple and reassure them that they’re safe. Answer their questions honestly and let them know it’s okay to feel whatever they’re feeling.

How to Start the Conversation: Find a quiet time when you’re not likely to be interrupted. You might say something like, “I know you’ve probably noticed some things happening around us. Let’s talk about it. Do you have any questions?” Listen actively and validate their feelings.

2. Limit the Scary News

Let’s face it, constant exposure to upsetting news can be overwhelming for anyone, especially kids. Try to keep an eye on what they’re watching and listening to. Encourage them to talk about their feelings and offer a balanced perspective on the situation.

Creating a Safe Media Environment: Set specific times for watching news if necessary, and choose kid-friendly sources that explain events in a less frightening way. Discuss the news together and provide context to help them understand what they’re seeing and hearing.

3. Stick to Routines

In the midst of chaos, having a regular routine can be a comforting anchor. Make sure your kids stick to their usual schedules for meals, homework, and bedtime. This sense of normalcy can help them feel more secure and grounded.

Why Routines Matter: Routines provide structure and predictability, which are crucial for children’s emotional security. They help kids understand what to expect next, reducing anxiety. Consider creating a visual schedule for younger children.

4. Encourage Creative Expression

Whether it’s talking, drawing, or some other creative activity, encourage your kids to express their feelings. Let them know it’s okay to be scared or confused, and offer plenty of hugs and comfort. Being there for them emotionally is crucial.

Ideas for Creative Activities: Set up a “feelings” art station with paper, crayons, and markers. Encourage kids to draw what they’re feeling or create stories about their experiences. Older children might keep a journal or write poetry.

5. Focus on the Good Stuff

Even in tough times, there are always silver linings. Highlight positive stories of community support and resilience. Show your kids that people are coming together to help each other. This can give them a sense of hope and community spirit.

Finding Positivity: Look for uplifting stories in the news or your local community. Share acts of kindness and generosity with your kids. Maybe even start a gratitude jar where everyone can write down something good that happened each day.

6. Take Care of Yourself Too

Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself as well. Eat well, get some rest, and find time to relax. Seek support from friends, family, or professionals if you need it. Your well-being is just as important.

Self-Care Tips for Parents: Schedule regular “me-time” even if it’s just 10 minutes a day. Engage in activities that relax you, such as reading, yoga, or a hot bath. Don’t hesitate to talk to a therapist if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

7. Get Involved Together

Getting involved in positive actions as a family can be really uplifting. Whether it’s volunteering, joining community support groups, or advocating for peaceful solutions, involve your kids. Show them the power of positive action and how we can all make a difference.

Family Involvement Ideas: Look for local community clean-up events or food drives. Even small acts of kindness, like making cards for neighbors or baking cookies for a local shelter, can make a big impact and teach kids about compassion and community involvement.

8. Create a Calm Home Environment

During times of unrest, home should be a haven. Make your home a calm and soothing place for your kids to relax and feel secure.

Tips for a Calm Home: Create cozy spaces with blankets and pillows where kids can retreat and relax. Play calming music and encourage quiet time activities like reading or puzzles. Practice mindfulness or deep-breathing exercises as a family.

9. Teach Problem-Solving Skills

Help your children develop problem-solving skills so they can cope better with stress and uncertainty.

How to Teach Problem-Solving: Present scenarios and discuss possible solutions together. Encourage them to think of multiple ways to address a problem. Role-playing different situations can also be a fun and educational way to practice these skills.

10. Stay Connected with Loved Ones

Social connections are vital for emotional well-being. Ensure your children stay connected with family and friends, even if it’s through virtual means.

Ways to Stay Connected: Schedule regular video calls with grandparents and relatives. Encourage kids to write letters or send drawings to family members. Arrange virtual playdates with their friends to maintain those important social bonds.

Parenting during political unrest isn’t easy, but creating a supportive and stable environment can help our kids navigate these times with resilience and hope.

Stay strong, stay safe, and give your little ones all the love and care they need.

Lots of Love,

Dr. Ruguru Kimani.